Ditch that modesty and start networking!

Were you ever surprised to find out that a colleague was assigned a new exciting project or a new role, and not you? Jannet came to me after something similar happened to her at least twice. “I really don’t understand why I was not chosen to head that project. I always deliver on time. I am much reliable and conscientious than the person they chose. I clearly fit that position much better”.  Jannet’s colleague was picked to manage the new cross-departmental project that they both had been involved in for several preceding months, and she felt clearly bewildered by the fact. […] Read more »

New Year: think of new habits, not resolutions!

Why do so many people hit the gym and buy more self-help books in January (both gyms and the self-help books’ publishing see a huge jump in sales in the first 2 months of each year) and then… go back to the old habits?  Why, for most people, New Year resolutions stay just as “resolutions” and do not turn into habits? Here are a few reasons: 1. People often motivate themselves from the “I should, I must, I have to” place and don’t take time to connect their goals to their bigger ‘why’, to the reasons why it’s important to […] Read more »

Feeling stressed? Do something different!

When Claire put down the phone, she was hyper-ventilating. Her heart was racing. It was 3pm on the last work day before the Christmas holidays and she just learned that one of the managers had not finished the report that was due by tonight and was leaving early to attend to her sick child. Claire was feeling the immense temptation to go out and have a cigarette. Instead, in line with the new stress management tools she’d been adopting, she took a few deep breaths. She looked out of the window at bare trees and Parisian rooftops, trying to de-dramatize […] Read more »

Gratitude + Low Expectations = Happiness

We all have challenges and issues in our lives to resolve.  A difficult colleague at work, a fight with a significant other, there is often a source of stress and frustration.  Thinking about those things adds to our stress levels and makes us feel anxious. What if we focused on what’s going right in our life?  We suddenly feel calmer and the unresolved issue shrinks mentally. In the recent book The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky tells us that 50 percent of our inclination towards happiness is based on a genetic set point, something we cannot influence very much, 10 percent […] Read more »