Ten Habits of Highly Confident People

A famous American tennis player, Arthur Ashe once said « One important to key to success is self-confidence, and an important key to self-confidence is preparation ». What is self-confidence? For one, it’s the biggest differentiating factor between people who obtain what they want and those who don’t. Self-confidence is all about believing in your intrinsic unique value, your abilities and power, no matter what the situation you are in. It is essentially the combination of self-awareness, self-belief, positive-mindset and emotional intelligence. The good thing is we can grow in self-confidence – and become more successful and happier – by changing certain mindset habits […] Read more »

GET IN THE DRIVING SEAT OF YOUR CAREER!

How are you feeling about your job?  Let me guess. The chances are you are not very satisfied.  If so, you are not alone.  Most employees (between 60-75% globally) are unhappy at work. At a time of high unemployment and lacklustre job growth, many employees feel stuck in their jobs and unable to consider a career move even if they are unsatisfied. Employers who want an engaged and productive workforce need to find ways to help employees feel challenged and rewarded by work, for example by offering more training and education or further developing corporate social responsibility functions. On an […] Read more »

Awaken a change-maker inside you!

Minus 10, minus 8, minus 10 again. The temperatures in northern Tajikistan have stayed well below zero Celsius since mid-January. The snow-covered roads are hard to navigate, village schools are not heated. Children have been staying at home, with entire families squashed in one stove-heated room. Last fall it was the cotton harvest that distracted the school children from studies – they were sent to pick cotton and missed 2 months of school.  Now it’s the unusually cold weather that is the culprit. It’s not surprising that in this poverty-stricken ex-Soviet country, up to 25 percent of girls drop out […] Read more »

New Year: think of new habits, not resolutions!

Why do so many people hit the gym and buy more self-help books in January (both gyms and the self-help books’ publishing see a huge jump in sales in the first 2 months of each year) and then… go back to the old habits?  Why, for most people, New Year resolutions stay just as “resolutions” and do not turn into habits? Here are a few reasons: 1. People often motivate themselves from the “I should, I must, I have to” place and don’t take time to connect their goals to their bigger ‘why’, to the reasons why it’s important to […] Read more »

Feeling stressed? Do something different!

When Claire put down the phone, she was hyper-ventilating. Her heart was racing. It was 3pm on the last work day before the Christmas holidays and she just learned that one of the managers had not finished the report that was due by tonight and was leaving early to attend to her sick child. Claire was feeling the immense temptation to go out and have a cigarette. Instead, in line with the new stress management tools she’d been adopting, she took a few deep breaths. She looked out of the window at bare trees and Parisian rooftops, trying to de-dramatize […] Read more »

Gratitude + Low Expectations = Happiness

We all have challenges and issues in our lives to resolve.  A difficult colleague at work, a fight with a significant other, there is often a source of stress and frustration.  Thinking about those things adds to our stress levels and makes us feel anxious. What if we focused on what’s going right in our life?  We suddenly feel calmer and the unresolved issue shrinks mentally. In the recent book The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky tells us that 50 percent of our inclination towards happiness is based on a genetic set point, something we cannot influence very much, 10 percent […] Read more »

Assertiveness: do you speak up?

“I spoke up about the issue!” my client Julie looked radiant. She shared that she had raised her long-standing concerns about how a large-scaled project was being managed to the top management of her company.  The issue had bothered her for a long time and she’d been speaking about it to everyone but… her bosses. What made her change her mind and gave her the courage to finally speak up?  It was the forthcoming change in her life  – she was preparing to leave the company. Suddenly, she was no longer vested in keeping her reputation as the ‘nice Julie” […] Read more »

Eight lessons from Deauville

1300 business women gathered earlier this month in Deauville for the ninth Women’s Forum. The sun was shining on the sea, the champagne was glittering in flute glasses, and the participants who came from around the globe exchanged, debated and networked in powerful ways. What did we learn? What beliefs were confirmed? What myths were thrown out? According to the latest study by McKinsey women’s group, women are as ambitious about reaching the top as men. What is different is that women are not as confident as men about their ability to reach the top. For instance, only 58 percent […] Read more »

Smart Leadership: how good are your people skills?

A twenty-year old study of leadership effectiveness conducted by Stanford University’s School of Business concluded that about 15 percent of one’s success in leading organizations comes from technical skills and knowledge, while 85 percent comes from the ability to connect with people and engender trust and mutual understanding. Through my coaching and leadership training work, as well as in interviews with successful women entrepreneurs and CEOs for my forthcoming book, I noticed that indeed people skills top the list of the attributes of successful leaders. Today’s leaders do not need to know everything there is to know. They want to […] Read more »

Google’s management lessons

People typically leave a company for one of three reasons, or a combination of them. The number one reason is that they have an unpleasant, to put it mildly, boss.  The second one is that they don’t feel a connection to the mission of the company, or sense that their work matters. The third reason is that they don’t really like or respect their co-workers. Those are the findings of many surveys, including the one conducted by Google.  Google, which has been called the #1 company to work for, until very recently, had a surprisingly difficult time holding on to […] Read more »