Ditch your New Year’s resolutions!

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When I was younger, I was a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. I would make a list of things I wanted to improve or learn in the New Year. To improve my swimming, take up dancing again, find a new job, see my parents more often… I would make a step or two towards my resolutions in early January, then life would get underway and I would forget about them. My story is not atypical. We all know that New Year’s Resolutions have a very low success rate. In fact, studies show that 88% of people fail to hold on to their […] Read more »

How to reach your goals in 2016

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Over last month I met quite a few people who told me they were motivated to change their lives or careers this year.  “It’s now or never” said one woman I met.  She was determined to leave her job of 10 years this year before she hit 50. I must have heard this phrase so many times, and especially in January, I couldn’t help asking myself “What will happen if she does not succeed? Will she close the door to her dreams and desire for change?”  In my experience of coaching people, what often happens when we set an ambitious goal and then fail to reach it is that we beat ourselves up hard […] Read more »

Lost your ambition? Don’t feel confident at work? Here’s what to do.

“I don’t have any ambition left.”  “I don’t dream anymore.”  Have you heard those words?  Do these thoughts cross your mind sometimes?   If so, it’s a stark contrast to the surge in enthusiasm you must have felt when you first started your current job/career, isn’t it? Recent studies  show that women tend to lose their ambition and self-confidence after 2 years on the new job. We enter the workplace as confident of our abilities and as ambitious as men. But after a while women’s aspirations drop by more than half (among both married and single women), while men become more […] Read more »

7 things you need to do before you quit your job

There is no going around it: the warm and fuzzy feeling of excitement we get when we start a new job inevitably goes away. The work that felt fresh and exciting starts feeling stale, boring and old. That’s when we feel we can no longer stand an obnoxious colleague or a micromanager boss… We notice that the company’s mission has nothing to do with our deepest values… We hate Monday mornings, feel taken for granted, and count days till next vacation… Two things can happen when we hit this point: we either disengage or start looking for a new challenge […] Read more »

Six myths and excuses that keep you stuck in a dead-end job

Burned out. Stressed. Bored. Frustrated. Angry. Resentful. These are the words my clients use to describe their current job situation. Do any of them ring a bell? One of my clients, Marie, 38, was full of regret about the time she spent with a renowned international consultancy firm. “Those years were a total waste,” she says today. Marie knew straightaway that she did not fit in with the company culture. Her views on what’s important in life clashed heavily with the company’s values. Despite that, Marie stayed there for five long years, putting up with a heavy workload and frequent […] Read more »